GETR.E.A.L. (Recognize. Engage. Affirm. Love.)

getR.E.A.L (Recognize. Engage. Affirm. Love) California is an initiative to improve the competency and capacity of child welfare organizations and to promote the healthy sexual and identity development of all children involved with the California child welfare system. Led by Family Builders by Adoption, it is part of the national getREAL project which is a collaboration with the Center for the Study of Social Policy (CSSP).

getREAL California works to develop and integrate a sexual orientation and gender identity/expression (SOGIE) framework into current statewide initiatives in collaboration with the California Department of Social Services and counties.  To date, the initiatives have included the Continuum of Care Reform, implementation of the Katie A. settlement agreement, California Partners for Permanency, and the California Child Welfare Core Practice Model.   The project leads and staffs an advisory group for the department of social services;   has developed tools and resources for the field to promote affirming environments and provides consultation and technical assistance for state and counties.

getREAL California is supporting the implementation of new state regulations to enhance the well-being of LGBTQ+ and gender expansive youth involved with the child welfare system. Those new regulations include but not are not limited to AB 731 and AB 2119.

Additionally, getREAL California offers workshops and training on a state and national level for organizations to understand and create intersectional SOGIE inclusive programs.

For more information, contact the getREAL California Project Director: Vida Khavar, at vkhavar@familybuilders.org.

Resources

Child Welfare Resources
  • Components of a SOGIE inclusive Agency
  • Guide to welcoming and affirming transgender and gender expansive children in STRTPs
  • Checklist to Assess Organizational SOGIE Capacity and Competency
  • Tools for Evaluating the SOGIE Competency and Capacity of an Organization
  • Dependency Investigation Tool
  • A Guide for Understanding, Supporting, and Affirming LGBTQI2-S Children, Youth, and Families
  • A Place of Respect: A Guide for Group Care Facilities Serving Transgender and Gender Non-Conforming Youth (National Center for Lesbian Rights)
  • Assembly Bill 458: The California Foster Care Non-Discrimination Act (National Center for Lesbian Rights)
  • beFIERCE! A Toolkit for Providers Working with LGBTQ Foster Youth
  • Best Practice Guidelines: Serving LGBT Youth In Out-of-home Care (Child Welfare League of America)
  • Caring for LGBTQ Children & Youth: A Guide for Child Welfare Providers (Human Rights Campaign – All Families All Children)
  • Checklist to Assess Organizational SOGIE Capacity and Competency
  • Components of a SOGIE inclusive Agency
  • Creating Inclusive Services for LGBT Youth in Out of Home Care (Family Builders by Adoption; Legal Services for Children; National Center for Lesbian Rights)
  • Getting Down to Basics: Tools to Support LGBTQ Youth in Care (Child Welfare League of America; Lambda Legal)
  • Guide to welcoming and affirming transgender and gender expansive children in STRTPs
  • Guidelines for Managing Information Related to the Sexual Orientation & Gender Identity and Expression of Children in Child Welfare Systems (Family Builders; Legal Services for Children; Center for the Study of Social Policy; NCLR)
  • It’s Your Life: Opening Doors: Improving the Legal System’s Approach to LGBTQ Youth in Foster Care (American Bar Association)
  • LGBTQ Youth and Youth Living with HIV in Foster Care and Juvenile Justice Systems (Lambda Legal)
  • LGBTQ Youth in the Foster Care System (HRC Issue Brief)
  • Locked In: Interactions with the Criminal Justice and Child Welfare Systems for LGBTQ Youth, YMSM, and YWSW Who Engage in Survival Sex
  • Moving the Margins: Training Curriculum for Child Welfare Services with Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, Transgender, and Questioning (LGBTQ) Youth in Out-of-Home Care (National Association of Social Workers)
  • Opening Doors for LGBTQ Youth in Foster Care: A Guide for Lawyers and Judges (American Bar Association)
  • Out of the Margins: A Report on Regional Listening Forums Highlighting the Experiences of Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, Transgender, and Questioning Youth in Care (Child Welfare League of America; Lambda Legal Defense and Education Fund)
  • Queer & Trans Youth in California Foster Care Have Rights: A Know Your Rights Guide (National Center for Lesbian Rights)
  • Raising Healthy and Happy LGBT and Gender Non-conforming Children
  • Recommended Practices to Promote the Safety and Well-Being of LGBTQ Youth and Youth at Risk or Living with HIV in Child Welfare Settings (Child Welfare League of America)
  • Redefining Residential: Ensuring Competent Residential Interventions for Youth with Diverse Gender and Sexual Identities and Expressions (American Association of Children’s Residential Centers)
  • Resources for Professionals Serving LGBT Youth in Out-of-Home Care (National Center for Lesbian Rights)
  • Revolving Doors: LGBTQ Youth at the Interface of the Child Welfare and Juvenile Justice Systems (LGBTQ Policy Journal at the Harvard Kennedy School)
  • Santa Clara County Policy for LGBTQ Best Practices (Santa Clara County Department of Family and Children’s Services)
  • Supporting LGBTQ Youth: A Judicial Bench Card (American Bar Association)
  • Tools for Evaluating the SOGIE Competency and Capacity of an Organization
  • Transgender and Gender Nonconforming Children in California Foster Care
  • Twenty Things Supervisors Can Do to Support Workers to Competently Practice with LGBTQ Children, Youth, and Families (National Resource Center for Permanency and Family Connections)
Education
  • LGBT Kids Of Color Are More Likely To Be Disciplined In School, Study Shows (Huffington Post)
Families of LGBTQ Youth
  • A Practitioner’s Resource Guide: Helping Families to Support Their LGBT Children (Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services Administration)
  • Family Acceptance in Adolescence and the Health of LGBT Young Adults (Journal of Child and Adolescent Psychiatric Nursing)
  • Family Rejection as a Predictor of Negative Health Outcomes in White and Latino Lesbian, Gay, and Bisexual Young Adults (Journal of the American Academy of Pediatrics)
  • In-Home Services for Families of LGBTQ Youth (National Resource Center for In-Home Services)
  • Supportive Families, Healthy Children: Helping Families with Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, & Transgender Children (Family Acceptance Project)
  • Tres Gotas de Agua (Somos Familia)
Homelessness
  • Identifying and Serving LGBTQ Youth: Case Studies of Runaway and Homeless Youth Program Grantees (Mathematica Policy Research)
  • LGBTQ Youth: An Epidemic of Homelessness (National Gay and Lesbian Task Force Policy Institute; National Coalition for the Homeless)
  • National Recommended Best Practices for Serving LGBT Homeless Youth (National Alliance to End Homelessness; National Network for Youth; Lambda Legal; National Center for Lesbian Rights)
  • On the Streets: The Federal Response to Gay and Transgender Homeless Youth (Center for American Progress)
  • Serving Our Youth 2015: The Needs and Experiences of Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, Transgender, and Questioning Youth Experiencing Homelessness
  • Surviving the Streets of New York: Experiences of LGBTQ Youth, YMSM, and YWSW Engaged in Survival Sex (Urban Institute)
  • Toolkit for Practitioners Who Work With LGBT Runaway and Homeless Youth (National Resource Center for Permanency and Family Connections)
Intersex
  • Intersexion: Full Gender Documentary
  • What It’s Like to Be Intersex
Juvenile Justice
  • A Guide to Juvenile Detention Reform: Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual and Transgender Youth in the Juvenile Justice System
  • A Place of Respect: A Guide for Group Care Facilities Serving Transgender and Gender Non-Conforming Youth (National Center for Lesbian Rights)
  • Hidden Injustice: Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender Youth in Juvenile Courts (Equity Project)
  • LGBTQ Youth and Youth Living with HIV in Foster Care and Juvenile Justice Systems (Lambda Legal)
  • Locked In: Interactions with the Criminal Justice and Child Welfare Systems for LGBTQ Youth, YMSM, and YWSW Who Engage in Survival Sex
  • Locked Up & Out: LGBT Youth in Louisiana’s Juvenile Justice System (Juvenile Justice Project of Louisiana)
  • Model Policy & Practice Guidelines for Providing Non-Discriminatory Services to Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender (LGBT) Youth in Juvenile Justice Facilities (National Center for Lesbian Rights)
  • NDTAC Fact Sheet: Improving Services for Youth Who Are LGBT in the Juvenile Justice System (National Evaluation and Technical Assistance Center)
  • Resources for Professionals Serving LGBT Youth in Out-of-Home Care (National Center for Lesbian Rights)
  • Restoring Justice: A Blueprint for Ensuring Fairness, Safety, and Supportive Treatment of LGBT Youth in the Juvenile Justice System
  • Revolving Doors: LGBTQ Youth at the Interface of the Child Welfare and Juvenile Justice Systems (LGBTQ Policy Journal – Harvard Kennedy School)
  • The Unfair Criminalization of Gay and Transgender Youth: An Overview of the Experiences of LGBT Youth in the Juvenile Justice System (Center for American Progress)
  • Toward Equity Training Curriculum
LGBTQ Parents
  • Adoption and Foster Care by Gay and Lesbian Parents in the United States (Williams Institute; Urban Institute)
  • Expanding Resources for Children (Evan P. Donaldson Adoption Institute)
  • Parenting and Child Development in Adoptive Families: Does Parental Sexual Orientation Matter? (Applied Developmental Science)
  • Promising Practices in Adoption and Foster Care (Human Rights Campaign)
  • Too High a Price (ACLU)
Parenting Gender Expansive Children
  • Becoming Me
  • Debi Jackson reading “That’s Good Enough”
  • Gender Born, Gender Made
  • Gendermom
  • Growing Up Trans – Frontline
  • How to Be a Girl
  • Jacob’s Journey: Life as a Transgender 5-year-old
  • Malisa’s Story: What It Means to Be a Transgender Child
  • Meet Zeam
  • On Being Genderqueer
  • One Doctor Explains the Journey for Kids Who Are Transitioning
  • Parenting videos of Diane Ehrensaft
  • Parenting videos of Dr. Johanna Olson
  • Raising a Transgender Child (video by Cosmopolitan)
  • Raising My Rainbow
  • Raising My Rainbow (blog)
  • Raising Zay: A Family’s Journey with a Transgender Child (article with video)
  • Ryland’s Story
  • THE FACTS (about transgender kids) (video)
  • The Transgender Child
  • Trans Truth
  • Transitions of the Heart
  • Transmormon
  • Transparent
  • Why Does My Kid Want to Change Their Name and Pronouns?
Recursos en español
  • Criando jovenes LGBT y GNC saludables y felices
  • Niños Saludables con el Apoyo Familiar: Ayuda para Familias con Hijos e Hijas Lesbianas, Gays, Bisexuales y Transgénero (Family Acceptance Project)
  • Sé Tú Mismo: Preguntas y Respuestas para Jóvenes Gay, Lesbianas, Bisexuales y Transgéneros (Parents, Families and Friends of Lesbians and Gays)
  • Un Mensaje Importante Sobre La Seguridad de Nuestros Niños y Jóvenes (Somos Familia)
  • Una guía para entender, apoyar y alentar a los niños, jóvenes y familias LGBTQI2-S
Videos
  • #WhatMakesFamily (You Gotta Believe: Adopting Older Kids and Youth)
  • 10 Standards of Care: Improving Services for LGBT Young People (The American Institutes for Research)